Educational Consulting*

Consultations for dealing with high-conflict disputes

Please note: Our consultations are not a legal service, legal advice, nor therapy service or advice

You are always encouraged to seek ongoing consultation with professionals in your

geographic area for mutual learning in handling high conflict cases.



We provide one-on-one consultations for professionals who need help with a high-conflict dispute or case, difficult clients, customers, patients, board members, employees or leaders.

Our consultants examine the pertinent details of the dispute or case and provide general information about patterns of high-conflict behavior, help you identify patterns of high conflict people that may be involved in the dispute or case, and suggest general approaches that you may want to consider.

Our consultants do not provide legal or therapeutic advice about your dispute or case, but rather general strategies and approaches that often work well in high-conflict disputes.


We provide one-on-one consultations if you need help with a high-conflict dispute in divorce, child custody, workplace, family, neighbor, or any type of conflict with a difficult person.

Our consultants provide information about general patterns of high-conflict behavior, problems to expect and general approaches that may be considered in high-conflict disputes with a high-conflict person.

Our consultants do not provide legal or therapeutic advice about your dispute or case, but rather general strategies and approaches that often work well in high-conflict disputes.  

After your purchase is completed, you will receive an email receipt and we will contact you to schedule a date and time for your consultation. If you have further questions, please visit our FAQ page.

High Conflict Institute does not provide free consultation services.



What is the difference between LEGAL ADVICE and CONSULTATION?

HCI does not give legal advice. “Legal advice” generally is taking the facts of your situation, applying the law, and then giving you a recommendation as to what you should do. HCI consultations focus on education instead of providing legal or therapeutic advice. An attorney provides legal advice and a licensed mental health professional provides therapeutic or mental health advice. HCI’s consultations help you find skills and strategies to help you get though the case more easily when you have an HCP on the other end. If you are an individual, you are welcome to have your attorney present for the consultation. 

What kind of documents should I send and how many?

If you select the option that includes document review time, you are welcome to upload/send as many documents as you wish, but keep in mind that our consultants have only 30 minutes to review them, unless you pay for an additional 30 minutes of review time. It is beneficial for you to only send the most relevant documents for your consultation, which may include legal pleadings, communication strings, letters,or other written communication.

Can you refer me to an attorney? 

HCI does not keep lists of people who have taken our training seminars and do not currently have a way to verify what they have learned.  For these reasons, we cannot make referrals to lawyers, therapists or other professionals. Finding an attorney is discussed in the book by Bill Eddy, Splitting (Ch. 7) where you will find tips on how you can help protect yourself in a high-conflict case.

Choosing a lawyer, therapist or other professionals is a personal choice. We recommend interviewing three or more professionals in your area and then deciding who to work with. You could check with your local professional association who licenses professionals such as the Bar Association or Psychological Association (they may be go by different names outside the U.S.) and ask if they have a recommendation for an attorney adept at handling high-conflict cases. They may have some knowledge of local attorneys.

Consultation Confidentiality Policy

Professional confidentiality is governed by state laws which are somewhat similar across the US. HCI consultants have neither obligations nor protections as Educational Consultants. Mandated reporters are only those specifically set forth in the state laws.

Regarding obligations, for example, California Clinical Social Workers are only mandated to report child abuse and elder abuse when serving in the role of social worker. Lawyers, mediators and consultants are not listed as mandated reporters. When HCI speakers/consultants give an Educational Consultation on general patterns of high-conflict behavior and general methods of dealing with them, we are not mandated reporters and will keep all consultation information confidential, according to our Consultation Agreement, except as described below.

Regarding protections, we will not voluntarily release confidential information. However, because HCI consultants are not serving as lawyers or therapists or mediators, we cannot block proper subpoenas from lawyers and court orders from judges to release written information or to testify in court.

An option in cases where our consultation client has a lawyer, in the lawyer’s discretion, our consultant can be hired directly by the lawyer and therefore have confidentiality under the lawyer’s “work product” privilege for all conversations we have with the lawyer and/or the client.