In today’s family courts, the issues are primarily behavioral disputes rather than legal policy disputes.


These behavioral issues include:

  • domestic violence
  • child abuse
  • substance abuse
  • alienating behaviors
  • hiding money
  • hiding children
  • false allegations of the above
  • not following court orders
  • challenging court orders
  • getting enforcement court orders
  • getting orders requiring job contacts for unemployed parents
  • getting support enforcement orders for support payors

There are laws about these behavioral issues and methods of enforcement of court orders, but the courts are ineffective at controlling behavior of this sort. Family courts were designed for the fairly-normal behavior and misbehavior of fairly normal people, who sometimes need nudging to follow court orders. The behavioral issues of today’s family court clients involve behaviors that 90% of people would never do (such as battering a spouse, sexually abusing a child, kidnapping a child from the state or lying about these things).

It’s not that Family Court is “broken” (an increasingly popular saying with which we disagree), but rather that family court was never designed to deal with the flood of clients with the type of behavioral problems which indicate serious mental health problems underneath.


    All seminars can be tailored to your area of the family court process:

    • Managing High Conflict Personalities in Family Law Disputes
    • Dealing with High Conflict Counsel
    • Managing High Conflict People in Court
    • Managing High Conflict People in Collaborative Practice

    These topics can be incorporated into any seminar:

    • Alienation
    • Ethical issues in high conflict cases
    • Child abuse
    • True and false reports of abuse
    • High conflict personalities and domestic violence
    • Managing self-represented litigants
    • Role of GALs and parenting coordinators

    Our training is appropriate for:

    • Judges / Court Commissioners
    • Lawyers
    • Mediators
    • Court Administrators
    • Psychologists
    • Counselors
    • Custody Evaluators
    • Psychiatrists
    • Parenting Coordinators
    • Divorce Coaches
    • Social Workers
    • Parent Educators
    • Financial Professionals

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