High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide

High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide


Reclaim Your Life One Week at at Time

By and Megan Hunter, MBA and Andrea LaRochelle, RFM
Foreword by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Divorce is hard enough even in the best of circumstances—high-conflict divorce is just about the most devastating, soul-wrecking experience imaginable. How can you keep it all together? This book, complete with a weekly planner, offers hope and a wealth of advice to help you become a healthy parents so you’ll be better able to help your children. Week by week, the authors guide you in taking care of yourself while navigating conflict.

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High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide

By Megan Hunter, MBA, and Andrea LaRochelle
Foreword by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Divorce is hard enough even in the best of circumstances. But what if:

  • your spouse is trying to turn the kids against you?

  • your ex is hauling you into court over every little thing?

  • you’re being falsely accused of child abuse or domestic violence?

  • you’ve been cut off from your children entirely?

High-conflict divorce is just about the most devastating, soul-wrecking experience imaginable. The unrelenting chaos and pain can leave you exhausted and despairing. Legal fees can become a huge strain. And most importantly, there’s the impact on your children, who may be grappling with anxiety, struggling at school, acting out, or turning to substances to cope.

How can you keep it all together? In The High-Conflict Co-parenting Wellness Planner, high-conflict divorce experts Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle offer hope and a wealth of advice. The healthier you are as a parent, the better you’ll be able to help your children. Week by week, the authors guide you in taking care of yourself while navigating conflict. You’ll learn practical strategies for handling the most common co-parenting scenarios. And you’ll discover new ways to manage your own anger, worry, fear, stress, and grief.

As hard as it may be to believe right now, it is possible to move beyond the conflict. You can overcome the frustration, regain your balance, and ultimately find freedom – from the overwhelming feelings, from the drama, and from your ex’s hold on your life. This book shows you how.

Book Details                                                                                  

Publication date: October 8, 2019
Pages: 160
Binding: paperback
ISBN (print): 978-1936268306
eISBN (digial): 978-1936268000

Table of Contents

How to Use this Guide
Have. Feel. Move.
High-Conflict Strategies
Wellness Assessment
Week 1: How Did This Happen to Me?
Week 2: You Don’t Need Fixing
Week 3: Until’isms
Week 4: I’m in a Hurry
Progress Check-In
Week 5: Side Effects
Week 6: Perfect
Week 7: Unfair
Week 8: What If
Progress Check-In
Week 9: Indecision
Week 10: Hate. Part 1
Week 11: Hate. Part 2
Week 12: Exhale
Progress Check-In
Week 13: Paralyzed
Week 14: Control
Week 15: Chocolate
Week 16: Easy
Progress Check-In
Week 17: Martyr
Week 18: Boundaries - Part 1
Week 19: Trust
Week 20:Guilt
Progress Check-In
Week 21: Unsettled
Week 22: Resistance
Week 23: Pause
Week 24: The Voice
Progress Check-In
Week 25: Nice
Week 26: Hope
Week 27: Fair
Week 28: Despair
Progress Check-In
Week 29: Procrastination
Week 30: Crumbs
Week 31: Balanced
Week 32: Learned Helplessness
Progress Check-In
Week 33: Digestion
Week 34: Pleaser
Week 35: Triggered
Week 36: Boundaries - Part 2
Progress Check-In
Week 37: Invisible
Week 38: Simple
Week 39: Happy
Week 40: Permission
Progress Check-In
Week 41: Self-love
Week 42: Numb
Week 43: Anger
Week 44: Bliss
Progress Check-In
Week 45: Terror
Week 46: Mourning
Week 47: Unconditional - Part 1
Week 48: Unconditional - Part 2
Progress Check-In
Week 49: Brave
Week 50: Cultivate
Week 51: Freedom
Week 52: Find the Good
Wellness Assessment
About the Authors

Megan Hunter

Megan Hunter, MBA, is CEO and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute with Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. who developed the high conflict personality theory. She is also the founder and publisher at Unhooked Media, a media company focused on complicated relationships. Megan trains professionals on handling and helping people with “complicated relationships” and “high-conflict” legal and business disputes. She is author of Bait & Switch: Saving Your Relationship When Incredible Romance Turns Into Exhausting Chaos (2015) and co-author with Bill Eddy of the 2017 title Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to “The One” Who Will Make Your Life Hell.

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Andrea LaRochelle is a Registered Family Mediator with over fifteen years’ experience helping families through the challenges of separation and divorce. She is a trainer and speaker with the High Conflict Institute and serves on the board of the Alberta Family Mediation Society. She specializes in showing parents how to improve co-parenting communication and manage conflict more effectively, so their kids can focus on being kids. She is author of I’m Done!: Take Control of Your High Conflict Divorce’ and the Goodbye Bugs children's series, including: Goodbye Angry Bugs, Goodbye Teary Bugs, and Goodbye Worry Bugs.


• Manage and Reduce Stress 

•Improve Communication with Ex Co-Parent  

• Learn Healthy Relationship 

•  Reduce Conflict with Ex Co-Parent

• Acquire New Coping Techniques 

•Create a Calmer Environment at Home 

• Improve Children’s Emotional & Mental Well-Being 


• Parents in the midst of a high-conflict divorce or separation

• Parents who are struggling before or after divorce, separation 

or co-parenting 

• Therapists

• Mediators 

• Lawyers


Kudos for The High Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide


I have worked with High Conflict Personalities for more than twenty years as a Parenting Coordinator and an Arbitrator. This book offers co-parents a practical, hand-on, guide in traversing the stormy seas of a high conflict parenting situation. This book will benefit not only the parents but those of us who work with them.

Jim Pender, MSW, RSW, Ph.D (Ed.) ChRP, ICADC, Jim Pender, Counseling & Consulting, A Division of 1148290 Alberta Ltd

"Finally! A workbook for shifting patterns and improving lives. Most writing in this area tells you what's wrong, this one holds your hand and walks you through it."

"If you've ever wished there was someone to hold your hand through the conflict then this book is for you. It's a step-by-step guide to taking back your control."

"As a family lawyer I know separation sends clients spinning. I need my clients to stop being triggered by their ex! Finally, this is a resource that will help ground them!"

Stephanie McLean, Degree: Juris Doctorate, Former Alberta Minister of Status of Women

I’ve worked as a psychologist with high-conflict separating parents for over twenty years. Because I mainly do evaluations, by time they come to me, conflict is entrenched, and my role is to make recommendations about how parenting time should be divided. By this time, it is difficult to change the pattern of conflict that exists. 

I have often wished that these parents would have had a way to understand what is happening to them, frame it in a way that is free of blame (toward themselves or their co-parent), and take bite-sized steps to heal and to step out of the patterns of conflict interfere with being the best parent possible. InHigh-Conflict Co-Parenting: The Survival Guide, Megan and Andrea do just that! Their book is accessible; it provides enough background and context to help parents make sense of their high-conflict situation without being overly academic or too psychological.

Counsellors and therapists, this book will provide a great supplement to your work, and will provide grist for your sessions when clients seem stuck. Family lawyers, you should have stack of these in your reception are, free for the taking. Megan and Andrea, thanks for an accessible resource. Your passion for helping people sidestep patterns of conflict and be the best parent possible shines through.

Jeff Chang, Ph.D., R.Psych., Consulting psychologist and professor


A simple, direct and informative guide, that has all the ingredients to support parents to take back their personal power, to heal by acknowledging and moving hard feelings through their bodies. The book offers practical strategies to engage high conflict co-parents in effective communication which ultimately will have a positive impact on the children or divorce. A must read if you are embroiled in a challenging co-parent relationship and want your life back. 

 Tasha Belix, M.A., Registered Psychologist, Tasha Belix Psychology Ltd., Clinical Director, Child & Family Therapist, https://www.tashabelix.com

I was initially leery to pick up and read yet another Survival Guide on High Conflict families – but I was most pleasantly surprised.  The authors have taken a complicated area and have given back an easy-to-read and, more importantly, a practical resource for parents.  Using terms like ‘flexible thinking’ and the fun ‘two-minute tango’, the book is filled with some real gems of knowledge and practical advice.

Lonny Balbi, QC, Family Law Lawyer, Mediator and Arbitrator,  Balbi & Co. Legal Centre,  http://familylaw-balbi.com


As a lawyer who represents children when their parents are involved in a high conflict divorce, I was thrilled to read “The High Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide:  Reclaim your life one week at a time”.  

In my thirty (30) years of practice, I have not encountered such a gem of a book.  It is a simple step by step – week by week guide for parents to regain and retain their own mental health no matter what the other parent may choose to do.   It is well written and easy to comprehend.  The underlying theme is the realization that although we cannot control how the other parent may behave, we can change our own reaction to them so that our existence can be one of peace and clarity.  

I shall be recommending this Guide to all of the parents I encounter as a healthy way to interact with their respective co-parent.

Terri L. Mair,  Barrister & Solicitor,  Counsel for Children


This handy guide focuses on what you can do to manage your own stress and do your part in demonstrating health relationship skills with your co-parent—even with a high-conflict co-parent. Andrea’s and Megan’s weekly tips will help you stay (and regain) calm and stay on (and regain) the positive side while reasonably communicating, making decisions and resolving conflicts with other adults in your life. Just showing your child how well you are surviving this co-parenting business will put them on a good path for life. As the subtitle says, you can Reclaim Your Life One Week at a Time.

  Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., Co-Founder, High Conflict Institute, Author & Developer of New Ways for Families® Method and The BIFF Response® Method