Books & Products

  

uhb All of our books, CDs and DVDs can be ordered through HCI Press, a Division ebookof UnHooked Books.  The "order now" links below will take you to the secure website to place your order. 

  

Or, you can enjoy the convenience of reading many of these titles on your eBook reader. Our eBooks are available for purchase at the major online bookstores listed to the right. 

  

Our products give you tips for dealing with high conflict people in divorce, in the workplace, in healthcare, in higher education, in government agencies, in volunteer organizations, in your neighborhood, in your family and others.

 

splitamcover   SPLITTING AMERICA: How Politicians, Super PACs and the News Media Mirror High Conflict Divorce
By Bill Eddy, LCSW,
 Esq. and Donald T. Saposnek, Ph.D.

 

This book is a warning to voters and politicians that current poliarizations risks long-term harm to our nation. This book compares the same 5 traits of high-conflict divorces to today's politics. The High-Conflict Politician Score Card is included! The authors note that the kind of negative behavior we are seeing in politics increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. What's worse, it's like a virus, infecting others who are exposed to it, leading the rest of us to act it he same manner.

  

Authors Don Saposnek and Bill Eddy hope their book will help change the destructive direction in which our country seems to be headed. They want us to avoid the "nasty divorce" that would hurt our nation and strive instead to seek common ground and understanding. After all, we are the American Family.

  

Splitting America is for anyone who is disturbed by the current political situation and wants to do something about it!

 

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familycourt   The Future of Family Court: Structure, Skills and Less Stress
By Bill Eddy, LCSW,
 Esq.

 

The Future of Family Court is designed for judicial officers with an emphasis on applying lessons learned from the field of mental health to the family court system, especially when working with parents with personality disorders or traits.

 

Written from Bill Eddy’s perspective as a family lawyer and mental health professional, and as a trainer of judges in managing high-conflict people in court, he provides tips on what individual judges can do, rather than recommending sweeping changes in the court system or creating new players in the decision-making process.

 

The court is in a good position to prevent child stress from the start or to reduce it by mandating efforts for positive change by their parents – from ordering parenting programs and classes, to setting limits on emotional attacks during the hearing process.

 

Judges who apply the principles described in this book should feel a much better sense of control over their courtrooms and less stress, as the families are doing more of the work, practicing conflict resolution skills that will help them raise their children out of court, or showing each other’s patterns of behavior to more accurately see what needs attention and protective orders.

 

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product1   SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with a Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Randi Kreger, co-author of Stop Walking on Eggshells

This book is designed for anyone going through a potentially high conflict divorce, as well as their attorneys, therapists and/or family members. It focuses on common emotional and legal issues raised when someone with a Borderline or Narcissistic personality enters the Family Court system. This is an honest and supportive book, with practical suggestions for handling the many predictable issues of legal manipulations, abusive behavior, false allegations of abusive behavior, finding an attorney, and a prolonged legal process. 
Note: A companion CD for this book is offered below.

 

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It's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

This is Bill Eddy's book filled with lots of practical methods for handling High Conflict People (HCPs) in any setting, including neighbor disputes, workplace conflicts, family battles, with strangers, etc.

HCPs target those close to them and people in positions of authority, so in this book Bill focuses on what to do when YOU are the Target of Blame—and how to avoid (or prevent) being one for long.

It is organized around 12 key Tips (5 Do’s and 7 Don’ts), that simplify large concepts into small, easy-to-remember phrases when you’re under the stress of a high conflict dispute. This book is for the general public, so you can give it to anyone.

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BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns (Second Edition)
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

This is Bill Eddy’s new Second Edition of BIFF. It includes an all-new chapter on “Coaching for BIFF Responses”.

This book helps us communicate in this age of rapid change and instant communication, and in a society with a growing Culture of Blame and Disrespect. Managing your responses to high-conflict emails, texts, letters, and social media meltdowns is imperative, according to author Bill Eddy.

We live in an age of rapid change and instant communication. We also live in a Culture of Blame and Disrespect… A BIFF Response can be applied in any communication anywhere – online, social media, in a letter or even in person. It can be used at work, earning you respect and success. It can help you get along with difficult family members, friends, neighbors and others anywhere in your life. BIFF was designed to protect you and your reputation by responding quickly and civilly to people who treat you rudely, while being reasonable in return.

BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This little book gives over 20 examples of BIFF responses for all areas of life—plus additional tips to help you deal with high-conflict people anywhere. See if you can do a BIFF! Not everyone can!

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Don't Alienate The Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD
 

Don't Alienate the Kids! is a fresh examination of the child alienation problem from the perspective of a lawyer/therapist/mediator, who also trains judges on managing high-conflict disputes.

Author Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., doesn't just analyze the debate (Parental Alienation Syndrome vs. Child Abuse Presumption); he also proposes his own theory of "1000 Little Bricks," based on recent breakthroughs in brain research about how children learn. In his theory, there are no bad parents, just bad behaviors—the behaviors of some parents, family members, friends and divorce professionals. Most of these bad behaviors go unrecognized in daily life, but they help build a Wall of Alienation between a parent and child. By becoming aware and using his tips, we can all help children build a Foundation of Resilience which will last them a lifetime.

This is a book for any reasonable parent even considering a divorce, and for any professional who wants to truly help parents raise resilient children.

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High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Using over two dozen compelling case examples, Bill Eddy explains the dynamics and strange logic of four types of Personality Disorders that appear in legal disputes.

Everybody knows someone with a High Conflict Personality (HCP).  "How can he be so unreasonable? So totally rigid and self-centered?"  "Why does she keep fighting so much? Can't she see how destructive she is?"   "Can you believe they're going to court over __________________?" (You fill in the issue).

This book helps make sense of the fears that drive conflict and drive people to file lawsuits, complaints and wreak havoc for legal professionals and the general public alike.

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Managing High Conflict People in Court
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

This book describes general principles and suggestions for judicial officers to use in managing people with High-Conflict Personalities in any courtroom, with an emphasis on family court litigants. As explained in this informative book, approximately half of these cases appear to involve two or more parties who are HCPs, while the other half may be driven primarily by one HCP with the other party generally acting reasonably. 

People with High-Conflict Personalities (HCP's) are increasing in our society and in our courts. As litigants, they have a familiar pattern of high-intensity emotions, distortions of information, and self-defeating behavior. Their prolonged disputes are characterized by unchanging hostility, replacement of resolved issues with new unresolved issues, and lack of insight and behavior change. Judicial officers often refer to them as "frequent filers" who can't let go of the litigation process. They have many of the characteristics of Cluster B personality disorders.


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New Ways For Families: Professional Guidebook
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

The New Ways for Families Professional Guidebook is for mental health professionals (counselors), lawyers and judges who want to learn more about New Ways for Families or use the method with their clients. It is also helpful for collaborative professionals, mediators and parenting coordinators considering using this new method.


How Does New Ways for Families Work? It is a structured parenting skills method designed to reduce the impact of conflict on children in potentially high-conflict cases. New Ways can be used whenever a parent or the court believes one parent needs restricted parenting (supervised, no contact, limited time), at the start of a case or any time a parent requests restricted parenting including after the divorce or separation. This method emphasizes strengthening skills for positive future behavior (new ways), rather than focusing on past negative behavior while still acknowledging it. 

 

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nwparent   New Ways For Families: Parent Workbook
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

The New Ways for Families Parent Workbook is for separating or divorcing parents who have been court-ordered or have agreed to use New Ways for Families in the divorce process. The workbook includes everything needed by parents to complete Step 2, Individual Parent Counseling, and Step 3, Parent-Child Counseling. Parents involved in a "Collaborative Divorce" case, mediation or parenting class using this method, should use the "Collaborative Parent Workbook."

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New Ways for Families: Basic Six-Hour Training
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

New Ways for Families is a method for helping families in separation and divorce. It is intended to inoculate families from becoming high-conflict in the court process, and can also help families after court with difficult co-parenting issues.

This Basic Training video is a 6-hour course taught by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., President of High Conflict Institute, who developed the method. It includes:

  • Discs 1 & 2:  Fundamentals (3 hours)
  • Discs 3 & 4:  Handling Domestic Violence & Related Issues (3 hours)

How Does New Ways for Families Work? A structured parenting skills method designed to reduce the impact of conflict on children in potentially high-conflict cases. Available in Book and DVD, NWFF can be used whenever a parent or the court believes one parent needs restricted parenting (supervised, no contact, limited time), at the start of a case or any time a parent requests restricted parenting including after the divorce or separation. This method  emphasizes strengthening skills for positive future behavior (new ways), rather than focusing on past negative behavior while still acknowledging it. Contact us for more information about completing the training and receiving a Certificate of Completion.

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New Ways for Families: Introduction for Professionals
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

New Ways for Families is a method for helping families in separation and divorce. It is intended to inoculate families from becoming high-conflict in the court process, and can also help families with difficult co-parenting issues.

This Introduction for Professionals video illustrates a typical divorce case that is becoming high-conflict and how the court uses New Ways for Families to contain the conflict, protect the children, and help the parent co-parent effectively.  This video is for demonstration purposes.


How Does it Work? A structured 4-step parenting skills method designed to reduce the impact of conflict on children in potentially high-conflict cases. This method emphasizes strengthening skills for positive future behavior, rather than focusing on past negative behavior—while still acknowledging it. It is designed to save courts time, to save parents money, and to protect children as their families re-organize in new ways after a separation or divorce. For married or never-married parents.

FREE Online Video

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The Splitting CD
By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

This CD coontains interviews of Bill Eddy and Randi Kreger, co-authors of the book Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Bill and Randi expand on the topics in Splitting, tackle some new ones, and answer frequently asked questions.

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Working With High Conflict Clients: Ethics & Risk Management By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Continuing Education credit available.


This 6-hour live seminar was presented to over 350 counselors in Pennsylvania, but can be useful for anyone dealing with potentially high conflict clients or helping their clients deal with a high conflict person in their lives.

After taking this seminar, you will be able to describe:
- Five common personality patterns of high-conflict behavior
- Recent brain research in managing high-conflict clients
- How to avoid boundary violations with high-conflict client
- Four-step method of working with high-conflict clients
- How to manage confidentiality issues and duties to warn others of risks
- Risks & opportunities of new roles in conflict settings
- Professional standards of care to avoid malpractice risks
- How to avoid burn-out and negativity while working with high-conflict clients

Home study test provided if you wish to take the home study test for 6 CE credits.

Available in DVD and CD Versions.

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More Bill Eddy DVDs and Audio CDs

For a full listing of CDs and DVDs available with interview information featuring Bill Eddy about managing people in the following settings, please visit UnHooked Books.

Understanding & Managing High Conflict Personalities in Legal Disputes (12-hour DVD training)

Dealing with High Conflict People in Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting (13-disc set)

Dealing with High Conflict People in Separation, Divorce (without children) (4 disc set)

Managing High Conflict People in Mediation

Handling Relationships with People Who Have Borderline & Narcissistic Personality Disorders (BPD & NPD) - Full Set

Managing High Conflict People Series

Managing High Conflict People in the Workplace: For HR, Ombuds, EAP & Other Conflict Managers

Managing High Conflict People in the Workplace: For Managers & Supervisors

Managing High Conflict People in the Workplace: For Employees

Managing High Conflict People in the Workplace: For Healthcare Professionals

Managing High Conflict People in Law Enforcement & Code Enforcement

Managing High Conflict People in Higher Education

Managing High Conflict People in Neighbor Disputes