By Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ   BEFORE YOU GO TO COURT • Make Sure You Have Realistic Expectations In Court, the judge or jury will never really know what is going on in your case. The Court’s job is to …
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6.3 Reality-Testing High-conflict disputes are almost always about the facts, not about the law. When one or both parties have a high-conflict personality, the dispute over the facts will never end, because it is really a dispute over perceptions – distorted perceptions. …
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In this issue:      High-Conflict Training on DVD Article:  Who Are High-Conflict People?      Book of the Month: Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents Interview with author, Blaise Aguirre, MD Click this Link to Read the full issue
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By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. copyright High Conflict Institute 2010 I just finished writing a book about child alienation (Don’t Alienate the Kids!), broadly defined as when a child resists spending time with one parent after a divorce, without assuming the …
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              Bill and the AFCC/MDIC Conference Organizers On Friday, February 24, I gave an all-day seminar to lawyers, mental health professionals and parent educators on Managing High Conflict Personalities. There were over 100 in …
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Excerpted from It’s All Your Fault! by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ Instead of adapting to their social group and current environment, HCPs try to get others and their environment to adapt to them and their point of view. This is …
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Excerpted from B.I.F.F. Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Hostile Emails, Vicious Rumors, and Personal Attacks By Bill Eddy, Attorney, Mediator and Therapist Many people initially react to Blamespeak with Blamespeak of their own – even people who do not have high-conflict …
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Excerpted from It’s All Your Fault! In 2004, a study funded by the National Institutes of Health (N.I.H.) reported that 14.8% of the general population of the United States meets the criteria for the diagnosis of at least one personality disorder. Over …
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I started doing divorce mediation over 30 years ago, when I helped two friends figure out a shared custody arrangement of their 8-year-old son. I don’t recommend being a divorce mediator for your friends, but this one worked out okay. …
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High-conflict people (HCPs) have a repeated pattern of aggressive behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. It’s part of how they think, feel and act. It’s been part of their personality for years.  To HCPs, it seems …
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None of us can predict who is going to commit a family murder, such as the murder-suicide of Josh Powell and his two young sons this week. But we can predict people of high risk and times of high risk. …
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This week is National Marriage week. As the website http://www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org/ says: “February 7th to 14th every year is a collaborative effort to encourage many diverse groups to strengthen individual marriages, reduce the divorce rate, and build a stronger marriage culture, …
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On Jan. 24 and 25, I did a whirlwind tour of three cities in southern Alberta in Canada, training 60 judges in the New Ways for Families method. For those who aren’t aware, Calgary and Medicine Hat (a city of …
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In this issue: Coaching for BIFF Reponses Marriage is Declining Rapidly! Does it Matter? Handling High-Conflict People in Separation & Divorce Happy New Year – HCI at 4 Click here to read this month’s issue.
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Mitt Romney won the Florida Republican primary on Tuesday, after spending nearly $7 million in the past week by his election committee and his SuperPac. The day before, Rick Santorum, one of the losing candidates, complained: “We deserve better than …
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In the previous blog, I wrote about the dynamic of “splitting” – the tendency for some people to see others as all-good or all-bad, and the contagious nature of this highly intense emotional process. This seems to have entered our …
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The concept of “splitting” in relationships has been studied for decades, especially when borderline or narcissistic personality disorders are involved. Splitting occurs when a person views others as either all-good or all-bad, with no grey areas and with an emotional …
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I was very appreciative of the feedback on my blog last week (1-12-12) about marriage rates declining. The responses triggered a look into more research statistics and some more thoughts for family professionals. Here’s some results:Remarriage rates: I don’t know …
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Excerpted from BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Businesses today have many opportunities to deal with HCPs as customers, suppliers, contractors, partners and in negotiations over …
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Yesterday, Jon Huntsman declared he would stop campaigning for President. Too bad, he seemed like a reasonable person, by and large. I couldn’t agree more with his comment on the way out: “This race has degenerated into an onslaught of …
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