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Ethically Settling High Conflict Disputes June 21 Presenting with Hon. Susan Finlay (Ret)
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By Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ Different Needs at Different Ages Birth to age 5:Generally, this is a period when children need lots of stability and “secure attachment” experiences, which are best provided by one parent having the majority of the …
by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ May, 2012 A controversial issue today in family law is whether there should be a presumption that parents should have equal shared parenting time after a separation or divorce. I just returned from speaking for …
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I just returned from Minnesota where I had the opportunity to speak for two days to over one hundred family law judges and their law clerks about understanding and managing high-conflict parents in separation and divorce. It was a very …
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The Future of Family Court STRUCTURE, SKILLS AND LESS STRESS Bill Eddy, LCSW, CFLS Author of Managing High Conflict People in Court Disorders in the Court THIS BOOK IS DESIGNED FOR family court judicial officers, although I realize it …
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Last week I had three training days, two in Iowa and one in Wisconsin. In Iowa, the first day I focused on Legal Disputes and the second day I focused on Managers and Mediators – including several practice exercises. It’s …
Last week I had the opportunity to train 35 mediators, lawyers, counselors and workplace professionals in mediating high-conflict disputes in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. It was very rewarding to work with such an experienced and interested group. The theme of …
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On March 5-6, I gave a seminar to over 40 counselors, lawyers, parent educators and others working with high-conflict divorce cases. There was probably a thousand years’ combined experience in the room, which produced a lot of good questions and …
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By Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ BEFORE YOU GO TO COURT • Make Sure You Have Realistic Expectations In Court, the judge or jury will never really know what is going on in your case. The Court’s job is to …
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6.3 Reality-Testing High-conflict disputes are almost always about the facts, not about the law. When one or both parties have a high-conflict personality, the dispute over the facts will never end, because it is really a dispute over perceptions – distorted perceptions. …
In this issue: High-Conflict Training on DVD Article: Who Are High-Conflict People? Book of the Month: Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents Interview with author, Blaise Aguirre, MD Click this Link to Read the full issue
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By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. copyright High Conflict Institute 2010 I just finished writing a book about child alienation (Don’t Alienate the Kids!), broadly defined as when a child resists spending time with one parent after a divorce, without assuming the …
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I’ve been asked to say more about clear court orders when a reasonable parent shares parenting with someone with a borderline personality or narcissistic personality. This is an issue in most high-conflict divorce cases. People with borderline or narcissistic personality …
After three years of hard work, I’ve finished my book, Don’t Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce. High-Conflict divorces are on the increase. With it, more cases of child alienation are appearing – when a …
Thank you for your feedback on my book. I’m glad it was helpful. My emphasis is on problem-solving rather than making “judgments” of people. I totally agree that we need to get better in the legal system at not making …
