Category Archives: HCP

When Helping Hurts – How Professionals Become Negative Advocates – Or Not © by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Most professionals are helping professionals. We like to help our clients as lawyers, mediators, therapists, arbitrators, social workers, human resource professionals, financial … Continue reading

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Three Theories of the High-Conflict Legal Case  © 2017 by Bill Eddy  High-conflict cases can be very confusing because it isn’t always clear which party is responsible for it becoming a high-conflict case. High-conflict cases increase the conflict, rather than … Continue reading

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How High-Conflict Politicians Turn Peace into War [Excerpt from the 2012 book Splitting America by Bill Eddy and Don Saposnek, chapter 4] High-conflict people tend to turn peace into war, regardless of the setting they are in. They naturally see … Continue reading

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  Why Is Being A Target of Blame of a High Conflict Personality So Stressful? Guest Blog by Megan Hunter Whether you’re in a dispute with your brother, classmate, work colleague, spouse or even someone you don’t know, conflict is … Continue reading

Posted in *Borderline Personality Disorder, *High Conflict Relationships, *Managing High Conflict People, *Narcissistic Personality, *New Ways for Families, *Parenting and Divorce, behavior patterns, Bill Eddy, blame, conflict resolution, Culture of Blame, divorce, HCP, high conflict behavior, high conflict person, high conflict personalities, high conflict personality, high-confict people, high-conflict divorce, narcissist, personality disorder, target of blame | Leave a comment

Are There Two Trumps? © 2016 Bill Eddy In March, before the primaries were over, I wrote a book titled Trump Bubbles: The Dramatic Rise and Fall of High-Conflict Politicians. In it I predicted that there was a 50-50 chance … Continue reading

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So, Can Personalities Change – or Not?  © 2016 Bill Eddy Question from Reader: On page 23 of It’s all your Fault at Work you mention that the key difference between high-conflict people and reasonable people is whether or not they look … Continue reading

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The CARS Method for Resolving High-Conflict Situations © 2015 by Bill Eddy and L. Georgi DiStefano The CARS Method was developed specifically to address four big areas of difficulty in high-conflict situations, which often involve one or more people with … Continue reading

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Negative Advocates for Trump © 2016 By Bill Eddy One of the most interesting dynamics of high-conflict legal and workplace disputes is the unique role of “negative advocates.” High-conflict people (HCPs) are always recruiting negative advocates who will completely agree … Continue reading

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Guest blog by Ellice Halpern, J.D., a Virginia Supreme Court certified general and family mediator. Last week, I participated in the annual four day Academy of Professional Mediators Conference in Reston, Virginia and learned with mediators who had flown in to … Continue reading

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Last week I spent three days in London – London, Ontario, that is! I trained almost forty professionals in our New Ways for Families method (see photo). Then I went on to Hamilton, Ontario, to give over 180 professionals an … Continue reading

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