Category Archives: alienation

After working with divorcing families for over 30 years, first as a social worker and then as a family law attorney, I believe the following myths are stronger than ever. The first list is what some professionals think. The second …

Posted in alienation, allegations of abuse, allegations of alienation, family law professionals, family law system, high conflict parents, splitting | Leave a comment

Once again we have a famous couple starting to fight over raising their child. (See last week’s blog about Bristol and Levi.) Unfortunately, the idea of solving the conflict by cutting out one parent is again being discussed – a …

Posted in *New Ways for Families, alienation, child abuse, custody dispute, domestic violence, family court, family lawyer, Halle Berry, high-conflict parent | Leave a comment

I believe that some children are alienated against one of their parents for no specific appropriate reason. As a social worker, I believe that alienation can be a form of emotional abuse. As a lawyer, I have won changes of …

Posted in *Borderline Personality Disorder, *Parental Alienation, alienation, American Psychiatric Association, child alienation, DSM-V, high-conflict divorce | 6 Comments

I just got back from a 2-week vacation hiking in Peru. It’s a really beautiful country, but also really poor. On the plane, I read a book called the Narcissism Epidemic, and a few thoughts clicked in my mind, connecting …

Posted in *Narcissistic Personality, alienation, divorce, high-conflict divorce, narcissism, narcissistic, resilience, self-esteem | 2 Comments

In my last blog, I asked the same question about borderlines. Borderlines and narcissists seem to be the most common high conflict personality disorders in high conflict divorces – especially in family court custody battles. (Sometimes a high-conflict parent has …

Posted in alienation, attachment, borderline, court orders, custody battles, divorce, don’t alienate the kids, family court, family law, high-conflict parent, narcissist, personality disorders | 19 Comments

I am responding to a comment left by a custody evaluator and parenting coordinator. It goes to the heart of the problem of child alienation or parental alienation, and how to handle it. He/she basically says: Sometimes there is only …

Posted in *Parental Alienation, alienation, blame, child alienation, Culture of Blame, custody evaluator, family court, family system, parenting coordinator, personality disorders, win-lose | 3 Comments

For the next few months, I’m going to be blogging about child alienation – the subject of my new book: Don’t Alienate the Kids! This is such a huge and important subject these days. It appears that about 15% of …

Posted in *Parental Alienation, alienation, blame, child abuse, child alienation, divorce, family court, family law professionals, high conflict, parent, personality disorders | 12 Comments

I just got back after a 7-day speaking trip ranging from New Orleans (state bar family law section), to Indianapolis (federal hearings officers for employment disputes), and Calgary, Canada (police conference for handling community complaints). High conflict people (HCPs) are …

Posted in *Parental Alienation, abuse, alienation, canada, custody, divorce, family law, high conflict, high conflict personalities, parental alienation syndrome | Leave a comment

I just got back after a 7-day speaking trip ranging from New Orleans (state bar family law section), to Indianapolis (federal hearings officers for employment disputes), and Calgary, Canada (police conference for handling community complaints). High conflict people (HCPs) are …

Posted in *New Ways for Families, *Parental Alienation, alienation, divorce, family law, high conflict personalities, parental alienation syndrome | 3 Comments