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Participate in the Academy of Professional Family Mediators Bookclub!

Posted on May 16, 2012 by Bill Eddy

APFM BOOKCLUB Participate in the Academy of Professional Family Mediators Bookclub! Our first tele-meeting will be on May 23, 2011 at 1:00 pm (EST). To participate, simply call (218) 936-4141, then enter code 8426638 when prompted. Please exercise teleconference curtesy …

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May Issue: Changing the Culture of Conflict

Posted on May 15, 2012 by Bill Eddy

In this Issue: 7 SOLUTIONS TO WORKPLACE SPLITTING: How High-Conflict People Divide Organizations JUST RELEASED! The Future of Family Court Bill Eddy’s new book NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES TRAINING June 25-26 BPD MONTH Get 33% off all Books about Borderline …

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Some Thoughts on a Shared Parenting Presumption: Part 3 of 4

Posted on May 14, 2012 by Bill Eddy

By Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ Different Needs at Different Ages Birth to age 5:Generally, this is a period when children need lots of stability and “secure attachment” experiences, which are best provided by one parent having the majority of the …

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Some Thoughts on a Shared Parenting Presumption: Part 2 of 4

Posted on May 9, 2012 by Bill Eddy

by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ Agreed-Upon Schedules In reality, as a lawyer, counselor, mediator and consultant, I have worked with many parents who use shared parenting schedules that are approximately 50-50. However, these are determined by the parents by agreement, …

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Some Thoughts on a Shared Parenting Presumption: Part 1 of 4

Posted on May 7, 2012 by Bill Eddy

by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ May, 2012 A controversial issue today in family law is whether there should be a presumption that parents should have equal shared parenting time after a separation or divorce. I just returned from speaking for …

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Minnesota Family Judges Conference

Posted on May 7, 2012 by Bill Eddy

I just returned from Minnesota where I had the opportunity to speak for two days to over one hundred family law judges and their law clerks about understanding and managing high-conflict parents in separation and divorce. It was a very …

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Excerpted from Bill’s New Book: The Future of Family Court

Posted on May 3, 2012 by Bill Eddy

The Future of Family Court STRUCTURE, SKILLS AND LESS STRESS Bill Eddy, LCSW, CFLS Author of Managing High Conflict People in Court Disorders in the Court THIS BOOK IS DESIGNED FOR family court judicial officers, although I realize it …

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Guest Blog: Celebrity Apprentice isn’t for Everyone

Posted on May 1, 2012 by Bill Eddy

by Megan Hunter, High Conflict Press and UnHooked Books Celebrity Apprentice isn’t for everyone, but I enjoy watching people work in groups, especially celebrities. Thinking back to business school days, I recall the concept of Forming, Storming, Norming and Performing, …

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Managing High-Conflict Clients in Iowa and Wisconsin

Posted on April 30, 2012 by Bill Eddy

Last week I had three training days, two in Iowa and one in Wisconsin. In Iowa, the first day I focused on Legal Disputes and the second day I focused on Managers and Mediators – including several practice exercises. It’s …

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Bullying – Without Consequences

Posted on April 23, 2012 by Bill Eddy

I just saw the movie “Bully,” and I thought about how different school bus rides are for today’s kids. One boy was repeatedly hit, pushed and poked by several of the other kids on his bus. This was all recorded …

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ALIENATION UPDATE

Posted on April 16, 2012 by Bill Eddy

Several years ago I wrote an article on Calming the Alienation Debate, which later evolved into my book titled Don’t Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce. Now, it seems that the debate is just about …

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Pre-Mediation Coaching: 4 Skills for Your Mediation Clients

Posted on April 15, 2012 by Bill Eddy

© 2012 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Whether you are a lawyer, counselor, manager or other professional, you are likely to be involved in mediation regularly or occasionally. Legal professionals are required to have their clients participate in mediation before …

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April 2012 Changing the Culture of Conflict Newsletter

Posted on April 9, 2012 by Bill Eddy

In this issue: Pre-Mediation Coaching: 4 Skills for Your Mediation Clients By Bill Eddy Where Are The Elders? The Need for Directive Counseling with High Conflict Separations & Divorces By Dr. Stephen Carter Announcing the Academy of Professional Mediators …

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Bellevue, Washington – High Conflict Mediation Seminar

Posted on April 9, 2012 by Bill Eddy

On Tuesday March 29, I did a seminar with about 35 mediators in Bellevue, Washington (just outside of Seattle). It was just an evening, but we really delved into the issues of High Conflict Mediation – my theme for March …

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Announcing the Academy of Professional Family Mediators – a New International Organization

Posted on April 2, 2012 by Bill Eddy

This spring, a new organization was born: the Academy of Professional Family Mediators. We are seeking founding members. I am on the board of APFM, along with a dozen other highly experienced family mediators (several with nearly 30 years in …

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Vancouver High-Conflict Mediation Training

Posted on April 2, 2012 by Bill Eddy

Thursday and Friday (March 30 and 31, 2012) I gave a 2-day training to 34 experienced family mediators, police officers and other professionals – who regularly deal with high conflict clients in mediation. It was similar to the training that …

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High Conflict Mediation Training in Victoria, BC

Posted on March 24, 2012 by Bill Eddy

Last week I had the opportunity to train 35 mediators, lawyers, counselors and workplace professionals in mediating high-conflict disputes in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. It was very rewarding to work with such an experienced and interested group. The theme of …

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Family Law Meeting in Austin Texas

Posted on March 16, 2012 by Bill Eddy

On March 7th, I spoke to about 140 family law professionals in Austin Texas, at the beautiful historic Green Pastures restaurant. It was a luncheon meeting, but I tried to squeeze in about three hours of information about handling high …

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Managing Personality-Disordered Parents: 2 Day Seminar

Posted on March 11, 2012 by Bill Eddy

On March 5-6, I gave a seminar to over 40 counselors, lawyers, parent educators and others working with high-conflict divorce cases. There was probably a thousand years’ combined experience in the room, which produced a lot of good questions and …

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Excerpt from Managing High Conflict People in Court

Posted on March 11, 2012 by Bill Eddy

By Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ BEFORE YOU GO TO COURT • Make Sure You Have Realistic Expectations In Court, the judge or jury will never really know what is going on in your case. The Court’s job is to …

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Managing High Conflict People in Legal Disputes May 31 Utah Office of Guardian ad Litem and Parental Defence Alliance Conference Midway, Utah www.cvent.com/d/ncqkkj

Practical Methods for Managing Conflict and Change: Even High Conflict Personalities Can Be Helpful Problem ResolversPresenting with Marcia Haber, JD June 5 California Assisted Living Association Conference, Santa Clara, CA
www.caassistedliving.org/web/cala.asp

Working with Personality Disorders as Attachment Disorders June 8 Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) Annual Conference, Chicago www.afccnet.org

Managing High Conflict Personalities in Legal Disputes June 18 Alternative Dispute Resolution Section, Orange County Bar Association, Newport Beach, CA

Ethically Settling High Conflict Disputes June 21 Presenting with Hon. Susan Finlay (Ret)
San Diego County Bar Association, San Diego www.SDCBA.org

Managing High Conflict Clients: Ethics and Risk Management June 25 Solutions on Site Workshops, London, Ontario, Canada www.sosworkshops.ca

Managing High Conflict Clients with New Ways for Families June 26 Solutions on Site Workshops, London, Ontario, Canada www.sosworkshops.ca

B.I.F.F Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns

It's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything

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